Friday, August 9, 2019

Chapter 14: What Being Single Has Taught Me

As you can see, my life has been so blessed since I decided to give it all to the Lord, and not focus on finding a mate. There is nothing I can need that He cannot provide, and if it is within His will, there is nothing I can need that He will not provide.

I just have to ask.

James 4:2
“Ye lust, and have not: ye kill, and desire to have, and cannot obtain: ye fight and war, yet ye have not, because ye ask not.”
God wants to give gifts to His children, and if you are His child, then you have found favor with Him already. Ask!

Matthew 7
7 Ask, and it shall be given you; seek, and ye shall find; knock, and it shall be opened unto you:
8 For every one that asketh receiveth; and he that seeketh findeth; and to him that knocketh it shall be opened.
9 Or what man is there of you, whom if his son ask bread, will he give him a stone?
10 Or if he ask a fish, will he give him a serpent?
11 If ye then, being evil, know how to give good gifts unto your children, how much more shall your Father which is in heaven give good things to them that ask him?
If it is a mate that you really want, you can feel free to ask for that as well. Just remember, Israel asked for King, and it disappointed the Lord because He was their King up until that point. Israel wanted to be like all the other nations and have a King because everyone else did, so God gave them what they asked for; but, it broke His heart.:

Be careful what you ask for. It is not above or below God to give you what you want. However, you might regret having asked for it.

If you have decided that you would, someday, like to have a mate, but that you are willing to wait for the Lord to provide the best one for you, you should focus on becoming everything you want your mate to be for you. It is selfish to expect to find the perfect man or woman when you, yourself, are not perfect in any way. Why would a man or woman want you?

Spend time getting to know yourself, and improving yourself to be something that will glorify God. You have all the time in the world, and God will give you what He feels you need. If you have time between relationships, use that time to become everything God would have you be.

Maya Angelou is quoted as saying, “A woman's heart should be so hidden in God that a man has to seek Him just to find her.” There is so much truth in this. If a man is willing to give God his time and energy so that he is rewarded with a godly woman, it is a bond that cannot be severed through any hardship.

Rick Warren teaches that “Love is a choice, not an emotion.” I cannot deny the truth in this, either. Love is something you do, not something you are. The only one who IS love is God. To be IN Christ is to choose to love. When you learn to love without condition and with all integrity, it is inevitable that you will be honorable in your relationship with a mate.

Go out on dates with Jesus when you find yourself alone on a Saturday night. Purposefully and intentionally seek to be a blessing to someone in need. Remember: You may be the only Jesus someone else ever sees. Be a Jesus they will remember and pass on to others. Seek to set an example for others to follow.


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